Making comparisons is part of being human as we look to others as our reference points.
However,comparisons are also often used for other,less constructive purposes.
These negative kinds of comparisons may make you feel insufficient,flawed,or worthless,
thus threatening you self-esteem.
What happens is that you lose sight of the fact that,
although not everyone is good at something.
Just as there are ideal aesthetic canons in which we're all expected to fit,
there are also skills,attitudes,
and personality traits that are required of us in one way or another.
There seems to be no room for diversity,
despite the fact that it's such an enriching practice.
You may be really good at something,but if you're not good at what you ’should' do,
you feel like it's not helpful to you.
If,for instance,you're an introverted person,with a large and rich inner world,you might,
on multiple occasions,
have rejected your sensitivity and forced yourself to be someone more outgoing.
This means you downplay your qualities,virtues and strive to change to be like the other.
Unfortunately,this leads you to live behind a mask.
Furthermore,the effort of pretending to be who you're not is exhausting.
Sometimes,despite all your efforts,you don't manage to be who you want to be.
This is completely natural since you're a diverse human being,
not a robot taken from a mold.
However,this inability to be good at what's expected of you can make you feel like a
failure and deeply damage your self-esteem.
You might even feel anxious and depressed.
Stop comparing and demeaning yourself and start to value yourself.
You might not be an extrovert,but perhaps you're excellent at listening or giving advice.
Maybe you're not competitive,but you're really artistic and creative.
Or,perhaps you don't want to travel the world,
but you're great at creating a warm and welcoming home.
You don't have to be like anyone else.
You're not inferior or inadequate.
On the contrary,you're unique and necessary and the world be incomplete without you.
Embrace your uniqueness.